| NO DATE ON VALENTINE'S DAY? | |
| DEAR MIDLIFE BACHELOR: Just last month, my long-time girlfriend and I finally broke up. This was several years in the making, and going our separate ways was definitely the right thing to do. We still did our Christmas together with her family, we just didn't pay too much attention to each other, and honestly I don't think anyone even noticed that we weren't interacting. I still love her but am not "in love" with her. I guess I'm ready to date, and have maybe a woman or two in mind that I want to ask out but it's only been a few weeks since we officially broke up. And we still talk every other day or so. Here's my question. Valentine's Day is coming up, and I'm not sure if I should do something with my ex, or if I should just not do anything at all. I have not been without a girlfriend (or wife) on Valentine's Day in 10+ years. What do you suggest? What would you do? MIDLIFE BACHELOR ANSWER: First of all - you broke up with her, and just based on that alone, I would not plan anything with her for Valentine's Day. >>> MORE - read this entire Q&A here |
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| NEW JEALOUS GIRLFRIEND TURNS PSYCHO | |
| DEAR MIDLIFE BACHELOR: I've been dating this hot 38-year old divorcee for about three weeks, and I'd like to get your input on some things that have happened lately. I'm 42, and have been divorced for two years after having been married since I was 25 so dating is still kind of foreign to me. I met the 38-year old online, and we wound up in bed on our second date. She is very good-looking with maybe a few extra pounds on her but in the sack she is a monster. She makes a lot of noise when we f*ck, and usually comes multiple times. Each session we've gone at it 3 or 4 times which is great. In the short time we've been dating, I have become addicted to her sexually. And I have no problem with this. Actually it makes me think about what I've been missing out on all of these years. The issue is that I've noticed her doing some jealous-type things that I really don't like. And then real recently she had a major cow about something that was completely misinterpreted by her. Let me elaborate. Once when she thought I was in another part of the house, I came around the corner and saw her going through my cell phone. Not sure if she was looking at texts or call logs. Several other times, I did not actually SEE her doing this, but when I came back in the room where my phone was, I could see that its screen was lit up which means that she was handling it. Another thing that happened that I just noticed for the first time was that I saw her drive by my house very late at night. She does not >>> MORE - read this entire Q&A here |
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| CHRISTIAN WIFE WAITS OUT HUSBAND'S AFFAIR | |
| DEAR MIDLIFE BACHELOR: One of your previous Q&A's, How to Get Cheating Husband Back from Midlife Crisis Affair? could have been my email except that the whore he's with is 47 years old, and she used him to get out of her marriage. Apparently she liked his income, and she was the bookkeeper. Since then, he's lost his job for being in a position of authority and abusing it ... with the co-worker. They moved in together the day he moved out of our home, and his first encounter (no sex, he says) was the week before. DUMBEST THING I EVER HEARD. The man's lost his kids (23, in college and 24), house, money, job, wife, and his mind. I can tell you, she was married to a dentist ... and my husband can't afford her $80 haircuts and her big-assed teeth! Especially now - he's even lost his insurance and can't buy his own blood pressure and diabetes meds. The man has snapped. I told him when it didn't work out give me a call. He said "when it doesn't work out I will. I'll be filing for divorce but people get remarried all the time" ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME ALREADY? Problem is, I love him, and I don't want to do anything that's going to cause him any more problems ... and I may never get him back ... but she's not going to get him either ... and I'm going to make damned sure of it. Everyone who steals something that doesn't belong to them has to either give it up or go to jail ... and this woman is a thief. So here's the question - because I >>> MORE - read this entire Q&A here |
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| REBOUND BACHELOR WANTS TO MARRY AGAIN | |
| DEAR MIDLIFE BACHELOR: I am 46 and divorced for just over a year and have been dating this wonderful woman for the past four months who I met online. She is 36, been divorced for 5 years, and has two young teenage kids age 15 and 13 (a boy and a girl). This woman is everything I’ve ever wanted in a woman, she is beautiful and keeps a good home and is a great parent although her kids act a bit snotty and distant. Her ex is not in the picture at all but the bad part about that is that he pays little if any child support. [She says he is a drug addict loser who cannot keep a job.] I’m so in love with this woman – the bedroom activities between us are phenomenal, the best I’ve had in my life. I’ve read enough of your site here to know about the various warning signs, and I don’t see any except maybe that she gets a little jealous and tends to get critical of me sometimes. I want to propose to this woman but I guess I want an opinion about whether I’m rushing things. Her kids don’t seem to care much about what their Mom >>> MORE - read this entire Q&A here |
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| SINCERE RELIGIOUS MAN CHASES WIDOW | |
| DEAR MIDLIFE BACHELOR: I'm a 57-year-old bachelor who has been unemployed for 10 months. During times of unemployment, I have donated my time toward a local ministry. While I have been with this ministry, I met a woman that caught my interest. She was coming from a broken and abusive relationship. I kept clear of her at first because of my own shortcomings (broke, unemployed) and after a while she became involved with someone else. This someone else was terminally ill and in the past 3 to 4 months died. She is 44 years old and he was in his later 40s. This ministry has at times been a help to her but mostly falls short for various reasons. I have been picking her up to go to the laundry or store and spending lots of time with her on the phone. A catch to all this is that she is also on meds for her anger that could have come from her past and her >>> MORE - read this entire Q&A here |
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| NEW MIDLIFE BOYFRIEND IS FLACID | |
| DEAR MIDLIFE BACHELOR: Not sure the best way to say this so I'll just say it - my 48-year old boyfriend of three months has trouble becoming hard around me lately. I'm 42, and am in the middle of a divorce. I was married for 14 years, and have only been single for the past six months ... dating this new guy for the past three months or so. We live in different states and we've seen each other five times - about every other weekend. The first several weekends were great - he had no problem. But now I notice that he doesn't seem as interested in me. And the last two weekends I've spent at his house, he was pretty soft (I mean that in a literal sense). I didn't really question him about it - I thought maybe it was me, or maybe he's just losing interest. I had dinner with a different guy this past week, and after dinner turned into a total makeout session, although I didn't sleep with him. I guess I just wanted to know that someone wants me. Concerning my boyfriend, do you think he is just losing interest, or is this common in late 40s men? I have not dated since my late 20s, and I guess I'm looking for some guidance. What should I do, and what should I expect? MIDLIFE BACHELOR ANSWER: First of all - thanks for emailing in your photo. You are definitely a very good-looking woman, and you can be sure that all midlife bachelors would think you are hot. So try not to take what is going on with your >>> MORE - read this entire Q&A here |
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| TRAMP WIFE CALLS COPS ON HUSBAND | |
| DEAR MIDLIFE BACHELOR: Hi - I wrote in before about my tramp wife, (Best Friend Hitting on my Tramp Wife). Anyway I solved that problem by taking your advice and talking to each one of them separately. My wife is still a tramp but at least my friend stopped hitting on her. I don’t think she is cheating on me right now but I could be wrong as I work 12-hour days six days each week. And she is still a crazy bbitch because she has not been taking her anti-depressants for months now, and that seems to make her act really nutty and yell and scream at me for no reason. She does this a lot, usually after I get home from work (12-hour+ day). All I want is some peace and quiet and to have my dinner and a beer when I get home but no. She has to start right in and bbitch and complain about something the moment I walk in the door. And sometimes she won’t let up right until the time to go to bed. Well that is exactly what she was doing one night last week – she was following me around the house and yelling at me, and poking me with her index finger saying “YOU something”, “YOU something”, and I just couldn’t focking take it anymore so I had a pillow in my hands and I pushed her away from me with the pillow, and it bent her finger back (she was trying to poke me with it). Anyway she called 911 but thought twice about it, and hung >>> MORE - read this entire Q&A here |
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| YOU CANNOT FORCE SOMEONE TO LOVE YOU | |
| DEAR MIDLIFE BACHELOR: My partner and I have a 2 year old together. He left around 6 weeks ago because he felt unwanted and unloved. I understand how he feels like this but it was never ever my intention to let him feel like that. I had so much going on and took him for granted. I made him feel like I didn't love him and he wasn't good enough as I snapped at him and put him down for stupid trivial things. I feel so gutted that I made the man I love most in the world, the most important person in the world to me feel like that. Why did I make someone I love with all of my heart and soul feel so horrible and unloved? I want to do anything and everything I can to show him how much I love him and appreciate him and want him in my life. He says he loves me and cares about me but doesn't feel in love anymore and doesn't know how to get that back. Please what do I do to change things and make him fall in love again so he comes home to his beautiful family? >>> MORE - read this entire Q&A here |
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| GIANT MAN HASN'T HAD A GIRLFRIEND IN 10 YEARS | |
| DEAR MIDLIFE BACHELOR: Well, it took me over a month to make the final decision in regard to submitting this letter, I have a lot of pride, but I need help and understanding. A little about me, I am a 38 y/o man who is well respected and admired by his colleagues and friends. I am gainfully employed, tall, confident, athletic and outgoing. here is my problem, I haven't had a girlfriend in over 10 years. The major reason I let this happen, was to focus on my career goals, and I sacrificed my social life to gain the status I have now. Some of my friends, who have known me for that length of time, never saw me with a woman. I compensated by having sex with "call girls", and a few one night stands in between. Most of my friends have successfully made the transition from bachelor to married life, and I am very proud of them because they turned out to be great husbands and fathers. Now, their wives/girlfriends, my co-workers and even my friends children are asking "where is your wife? Or Girlfriend?" with a tone of curiosity and surprise in their voice, to appease that question, I just give them the impression that I am a "player". My friends care about me, so I should have told them I had problems meeting women, and they could've made a serious effort to introduce me to women in their circles. But I didn't, because strong A-type guys like me shouldn't have this problem, and >>> MORE - read this entire Q&A here |
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| MAN ALLOWS EX-WIFE TO STEAL HIS SELF-RESPECT | |
| DEAR MIDLIFE BACHELOR: My wife left me in 2008 because she wanted to date other people, even though we have one kid together - he's four years old. The divorce was final earlier this year, and all she has done since leaving me was sleep around for a while, then she settled in with a boyfriend and actually got engaged to him before our divorce was even final. I've been in love with her the entire time, and I keep hoping that she'll come back to me but it hasn't happened. So this past June, she and her fiance got into a big fight, and he tossed her engagement ring out somewhere and they broke up. Since then she has been staying with me and our son at least several times each week ... sometimes every night during the week. But nothing went on between us - she would always tell me no anytime I tried anything with her. I keep asking myself why would she stay with me so much if she isn't interested? I know she loves our son but honestly I spend a lot more time with him than she does and I have primary custody of him so she only sees him every other weekend (when she doesn't stay with me). Anyway, as I said she's been staying over a lot since their breakup in June, and I keep thinking that maybe I'm gonna get my whole family back ... but then she just told me that this former fiance guy is on an extended fishing trip, and will be back >>> MORE - read this entire Q&A here |
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| TALL WOMAN WANTS TO CROSS THE FRIENDSHIP LINE | |
| DEAR MIDLIFE BACHELOR: My problem seems to deal with a few things such as a midlife crisis man, commitment phobia, and not wanting to risk ruining a great friendship. My male friend and I have been friends for years but we seem to keep coming back into each others personal lives. In 1998, when we both divorced our spouses - we hung out for a while, then again in 2002/2003 when I was in a crisis with my (off and on) man. Then this 3rd time, my friend and I have been "running around" together almost 2 years. The sexual energy between us is driving me nuts!!! But he's so scared of getting involved, he runs away when things get close to being steamy. We've had a few kissing sessions, but no farther. I understand his reasons for being afraid as all of the women in his life have left him and cheated on him and it's made him very insecure. We are very close, and some who see us together say that "it's good to see a couple so in love". We just laugh! Others have seen us sitting in a bar and we told them that we are "just friends" but they say, "well, you can't slip a piece of paper between you two" and it's true!!! BUT, as I told my pal, we seem to be having an emotional affair but not a physical one. I know he has feelings for me as I do him but he doesn't want to act on them. I probably have more feelings for him than he does for me - but I'm the type that really wants the man to make the move. I don't want to make the move on my pal as I >>> MORE - read this entire Q&A here |
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| DUMPED OVER EMAIL AFTER 5 YEAR RELATIONSHIP | |
| DEAR MIDLIFE BACHELOR: I came across your website during a desperate search for answers or guidance or just some comfort on-line. I am 32 year old woman, currently finishing my studies in the United States. I am from Europe. I met my partner who is now 38 when I went to the States in 2004 to study at a university there. We started out as room-mates. We fell in love, and I stayed on to complete a PhD in order to be with him. He was also working on his PhD. We have lived together for 5 years. He graduated this past May, and got a job. The job involved a long commute from where we were living but a number of our friends also undertake this commute everyday. We just signed a new 12 month lease on our apartment at the beginning of July. I was home in Europe for work for most of June and July. I received an email from my partner in July saying that he was no longer happy, and thought we should part ways. The day before he >>> MORE - read this entire Q&A here |
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| MIDLIFEGALS.COM VIDEO RESPONDS TO MAN WHO WANTS GIRLFRIEND 20+ YEARS YOUNGER | |
My friends over at midlifegals.com decided to send me their own video response to the guy who wrote in (two below) who insists on dating ONLY women who are 20+ years younger than him. (Entire Q&A here is called Man Wants Girlfriend 20+ Years Younger (don't we all)?) I recently met these women in person - and they are just as fun and crazy in real life as they are in their videos. Give it a look ... You also might enjoy watching the midlifegals video comment on two other items here on midlifebachelor.com ... 1) MidlifeGals Video Comment on our 14 Types of Women, and even add a new type of their own. 2) MidlifeGals Video Comment on Shaving that Hairy Girlfriend of Yours |
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What to Do on Valentine's Day when you Do Not Have a Date Updated for Valentine's Day 2010 Here is the official midlifebachelor.com list of THINGS TO DO and also NOT TO DO on Valentines Day when you do not have a date ... |
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Is Your Smile Repelling Women? An unattractive smile can drive women away from you in a big hurry so do not neglect the obvious. Get those jacked up teeth fixed ... get your ass to a dentist ... or no one will want to kiss you ... |
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Know When She Wants Sex for the First Time Recognize the signals your new woman is sending out, and know when she is trying to tell you that she wants to have sex with you for the very first time ... |
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What to Avoid on a First Date No matter who you are - first dates are ALWAYS a challenge. To ensure the best possible experience for everyone, here are some things for you to keep in mind or avoid on that first date ... |
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Is Viewing-Porn WRONG? controversial Whether looking at-porn is FINE or WRONG really depends on who you ask, and the answer varies widely among men and women ... |
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Advantages of Cheating on your Spouse or Girlfriend? Controversial Are there actually advantages to cheating on your spouse or girlfriend / boyfriend? Are there benefits to be realized … or gains to be had as a result of cheating? The answer depends on who you are ... |
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Which Photos to Pick for your Online Dating Profile? You've GOT TO KNOW which photos to use, and which photos NOT to use for your online dating profile. Here is the advice men and women need ... |
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