| CANNOT GET INTO PLATONIC ROOM-MATE'S PANTS | |
| DEAR MIDLIFE BACHELOR: I have female platonic roommate that is very good looking. At first, I tried everything I could do to get her in the sack. Excuse my bluntness - she maintains that she wants to keep it at 'just friends'. We are near the same age, 49, 50, I'm no ugly duckling, and a lot of my friends tell me to kick her out. I guess I have some far fetched dream that we would end up together one day. Anyways, she has been staying with me for eight months now and I'm not sure how to handle the situation. As long as she is here, it puts a damper on me "getting some" or just having a casual date over. We have been friends for over five years, so I would have a hard time giving her the boot. Any suggestions that you care to share would be worth their weight in gold. JJ MIDLIFE BACHELOR ANSWER: Thanks for writing in, JJ. I'll be honest with you - even though our motto here at midlifebachelor.com is "always go for it", I think based on what you state that your chances of successfully scoring with your room-mate are extremely slim. I say this because it has been my experience that the older women become, the easier they are to get into the sack. And if she has resisted you for this long, then it >>> MORE - read this entire Q&A here |
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| NEW GIRLFRIEND TOO HAIRY DOWN THERE | |
DEAR MIDLIFE BACHELOR: I am 45, and my new girlfriend is 46 – we started dating about a week and a half ago, and we’ve been intimate twice. She is very hot and nice and smart and charming, but there’s just this one thing that I’m having trouble getting past – she is too hairy down there. And I’m not really sure how to tell her without offending her or upsetting her. I really don’t want to chase her off, and I don’t think I’m being really picky. Her hair down there is like an inch long. Does that seem strange to you? I’ve been with many other women in my life, and none have ever had this issue. She is a Latina if that makes any difference. How can get her to trim it? What magic words do you recommend? What would YOU do? Rod |
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| OLDER BACHELOR NEEDS A COUGAR | |
DEAR MIDLIFE BACHELOR: I'm 54, and my first wife divorced me after 25 years of marriage. Dated a woman for 3 years, got married again, retired from my job, bought a house with her for cash in the state she lived and worked in, and moved there. All hell broke loose, and I filed for divorce and left after 8 months of trying to make it work. She was perimenopausal, into her career, and couldn't afford to not spend any less time with her girlfriends. She told me that "Husbands come and go, but girlfriends are forever." Well, I guess she was right. I told her that I was better off being alone then being lonely in my own house. The divorce becomes final in July. We obviously should've cooled our jets, and not gotten married nor bought a house together. She bought me out and I lost $12K because of the market drop. I moved back to my former state but to a different town and started a business. I subscribed to an internet dating site which has proven to be a poor performer. Went out three times with a woman who told me she wanted to be "friends" and that she was "confused" after I . >>> MORE - read this entire Q&A here |
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| AFTER 14 YEARS - NOW HE HATES ME? | |
DEAR MIDLIFE BACHELOR: My 39 year old partner of 14 years has completely changed. He once was a very loving man but now he hates me. He told me that he doesn't love me and he doesn't think that he ever did. He has been so cruel to me. He told me that he was going to leave me which was nearly 13 weeks ago now but he's still living with me and our young toddler. He has moved into the spare room. He hasn't spoken to me since he said he was leaving. If he does ask me something in relation to our child, he barks at me. He can't seem to stand the sight of me. He always seems to be angry. He has started working out loads, as he was overweight. He has been out of work for over 2 years and he doesn't seem to be bothered looking for work anymore which is not like him. He is great with our child but he also has snapped at his parents for no reason. I love him so much but I don't know what to do for him. Some days he seems so sad and lonely. I tried talking to him a few weeks ago but he said that he doesn't want to hear me speak so he told me to shut up and he walked away. This is not the same man that I fell in love with. His sleep is gone to pot. He could be up all night on the computer, and in bed all day. I would love to help him but since he can’t stand me being near him I don't know what to do. I really think that he has some form of depression. Could he be suffering from a midlife crisis? |
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| BLATANT AFFAIR WITH 23 YEAR OLD MARRIED WOMAN | |
| DEAR MIDLIFE BACHELOR: I am 45 years old and I have been married 28 years. I have 3 grown children, 1 of which lives with us with her 2 young daughters. My 48 year old husband told me 3 weeks ago he was interested in another woman. It progressed very quickly to be in love with her and her wanting to have his baby. They have been sexually active together. My husband said it was intercourse 1 time and oral sex the rest - not that it makes a difference. His interest is a 23 year old married co-worker, who understands him and makes him feel good. He tells me that this is a result of me always wanting to argue about everything. And yes we do argue sometimes, I never thought it was that bad. My husband has always been very negative with and about me, and in the past few years I think I just had my fill and started being very negative about him as well. He really doesn't remember all the things he has done to me, only that I have been mean to him. He tells me he loves me and he doesn't want to lose me or his family. He just needs time and space to work this through. I have researched MIDLIFE CRISIS and I feel fairly sure this is what is happening to him. I love him with all my heart, and I want to save our marriage - I just don't know how much more I can withstand before I go crazy. He comes home, and takes a shower, and gets dressed to go see her. He talks to and texts her on the phone right in front of me. He gets very mad if I get upset about any of this. He had a moment of being normal yesterday. I had asked him >>> MORE - read this entire Q&A here |
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| HOTTIE NEEDS TO PUT MOVES ON SHY PROFESSIONAL | |
| DEAR MIDLIFE BACHELOR: I hope you can give me some answers. I'm beginning to date a 51 year old, never-married, no-kids guy. I'm late 30's, divorced, no kids. He's a very busy professional (an M.D.) and has worked minimal 60 hour weeks his entire life thus leaving little time for relationships. He speaks of ex-girlfriends but I don't know the details other than I know they didn't like that his work came first. In the last couple of years, he has realized there is more to life than work and is getting out more. He comes from a great family … his parents are still married, … spends a lot of time with siblings and nieces and nephews, … goes to church. He is a genuinely good guy, but very structured and is a real creature of habit. He's a private person and has difficulty letting new people into his life. You have to earn his trust. I know he's been burned in the past with relationships, and I can feel how cautious he is. He also has a lot of money so he may be guarded about my intentions with him. I'm also younger and attractive so he may be questioning my intentions overall. I'm the girl people always say can have any guy I want. How I hate that statement! I have my own money, don't need his and honestly, just really like him for the person he is and how I feel when I'm with him. We have so much in common and it seems like times flies by when are together. I'm a private >>> MORE - read this entire Q&A here |
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| PSYCHO STD SCARE? | |
DEAR MIDLIFE BACHELOR: I consider myself to be a pretty good looking 42 year old paralegal, and live in Pennsylvania. I met this guy, Mike, in October 2008 online. Mike was a 46 year old average-looking man. His behavior drove me nuts to the point where I started acting very unbalanced, and I want to share my story. Tell me which of us you think was the psycho one.
At first, he was very sweet, always smiling and fun to be around. We were both kind of into each other at first and after a month of seeing each other, we had a night of great sex. Now Mike had a lot of issues toward his ex-wife. As he felt more comfortable in our relationship, he started venting out how she victimized him, and took all the money in the divorce. He also complained that she uses their son as a weapon to get back at him, and that he was going broke over the legal fees. It was easy for me to get sucked >>> MORE - read this entire Q&A here |
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| BEST FRIEND HITTING ON MY TRAMP WIFE | |
DEAR MIDLIFE BACHELOR: I am 44 years old, and have been married to my wife for 11 years. My marriage has not always been smooth mostly in the sense that my wife is very temperamental, and goes through a lot of mood swings. She started taking anti-depressants several years ago and those seem to have made a difference. Anyway, roughly a year and a half ago my wife had an affair on me, and it nearly destroyed my marriage. I am a Christian and believe that marriage is sacred and I won’t get a divorce, at least not as long as I can avoid it. She ended the affair shortly after I found out about it. This is just background. The real reason I am writing is that on several occasions recently, one of my best friends has been paying way too much attention to my wife and it is getting out of hand. After a few drinks, he puts his hands on her, and flirts real heavy with her. He is married, too, and has mostly done this when his wife is not around. But he’s done it right in front of me. As I said before, my wife is a tramp and all my friends know her history. She allows him to flirt and she flirts back. What pushed me |
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SHOULD I HAVE SEX WITH MY EX? |
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| DEAR MIDLIFE BACHELOR: We were married for 27 years, have 4 children together, traditional marriage, separated for two years, and now are currently divorced. He is a highly functioning narcissistic alcoholic. I have not had sex with anyone (but myself) for over two years. I'm still fit and he says a hotty, just too busy for a relationship right now. He (ex spouse) and I are on relatively good terms for the kids sake. He wants to have sex with me. He called it “friends with benefits”. I just want to have sex with someone who is "safe". Why not him versus a stranger? All the other men I'm attracted to are married. My only concern is that either of us would get emotionally sucked in and start some of our old addict/co-dependant behavior when we should be continuing to break away from each other. I really would like to have sex with a man. Should I do it? What do ya think? Cindy >>> MORE - read this entire Q&A here |
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OLDER MAN WORRIES YOUNGER GIRLFRIEND WILL STRAY |
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DEAR MIDLIFE BACHELOR: Well thank you for taking the time to read this and I hope that you can help me please. I am 7 years older than my girlfriend. I am madly in love with her and would do anything for her. That being said I am older than her and she is a sexy vibrant young woman and takes very good care of herself. Well as we all know life is not kind to you when you get older, and of course my body does not work as well as hers does, and I work out and take care of myself but I am not 21 anymore if you know what I am saying. It is a lot harder for me to stay in the kind of shape I feel she deserves. I am so worried about her finding some young guy that can eat five double cheeseburgers and his body does not change but I eat one and I have to run a mile and half a day for the next week just to make sure it dose not stick around. LOL Should I be concerned? What can I do? Let me finish this by saying she tells me all the time I am perfect and wonderful and she loves me for me but I still have the concern. Please help me. MLB ANSWER: Seven years age difference is not really that many … maybe you >>> MORE - read this entire Q&A here |
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